Yes, you read that right I am giving up! I am giving up on this idea that I will find my "one true love my soul mate" and that we will live happily ever after. Blah. Blah. Blah. I don't believe in soul mates. I know I may sound like a cynic,or even a little bitter. I see it like this, what happens if your soul mate dies now that may sound horrible but does that mean that I can never love again and if I do am I taking away there soul mate. I believe that with God in the centre of any relationship it will be blessed.
This idea that this perfect prince charming will come gallivanting on a white horse to save me, His damsel in distress is well...it's not going to happen.
Hollywood and Disney corrupted the idea of love.I like a good romantic fairy tale ending movie as much as the next girl but they only show the "Honeymoon Phase" -it is usually the first 3 months of a new relationship where everything seems perfect, but it is not reality. relationships are hard work. After the "honeymoon phase" things that we thought were cute like his quirky little mannerism's quickly become the things we want to change first. The real relationship starts after the "honeymoon phase".
We live in a society where the word love is passed around. It has lost all meaning. We say things like I love those shoes or I love my hair today. What is love? It says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Perfect love, as Jesus loved the church. My prayer is that we stop looking for Prince Charming and start looking for a man who is living a life like Christ did!
Blessings, Katelyn
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Be proactive, put yourself out there, let him know that your available, How can we do these things in a way that doesn't make us seem desperate. How can we be pursued? Well lady's listen up. Its not your job! its HIS. I feel as though we have let men get off the easy way. Men no longer have to knock on your door, now they shoot you a text message: I'm here lets go!! oh and he might through in a :) just so you don't get the idea that he wont wait for you. Men today will never have to sit through those awkward questions like where you going to be, what time will you be back and you know that if he says 10:00 pm your father expects you to be early! Then there's my all time favourite, What are your intentions with my daughter? As if any man has ever said to hurt her, but the question does make the prospective guy ask himself why?
I know how old fashion I sound, but look at how the divorcee is increasing. Marriage is no longer a life time commitment, but rather something we can walk away from when it gets hard, or we get bored. We live in a society where common law marriage is becoming more popular because you don't have to commit, and waiting until marriage to have sex is out dated. If a man has to work at winning over your heart he is more likely to put in the effort and fight for you. I love the quote from Fireproof when Michael says: When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies he.r He learns her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her, he often stops learning about her. If the amount he studied her before marriage was equal to a high school degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gains a Collage degree, a Masters degree and ultimately a Doctorate degree. it is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever closer to hers. Psalm 27:14- Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord! Don't settle for anything less that what God desires for you! My prayer is that you would see yourself as the beautiful treasure you are, and just like treasure hide your love away and wait Blessings Katelyn Fist off I think we need to take a look at what feminism is. Webster's Dictionary defines feminism as: the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities or organized activity in support of women's rights and interests. I am a firm believer that men and woman should be equal and that woman should be able to vote. There is a very thin line that we cross when we start to think as feminism as more then equality. Its when we as woman strive to be like men.
What does the bible say about our roles as woman? It says Ephesians 5:22-25 says wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Oh submission, a feminist most hated word, and yet we are called to do it. When people think of submission they think loss of control or the idea that we as woman almost become a slave. Lets jump back to Ephesians 5:25 Husbands Love your wives. I believe that if a Husband is doing his job, showing love to his wife treating her with love and respect, submission becomes easy. Men have the more difficult job, speaking from people who love me; I know there are days that I can be very hard to love. My prayer is that we draw the line in Feminism, S.T.A.N.D for equality but not to go as so far in trying to better than men . Blessings, Katelyn Who doesn't love presents. The pure joy you get from opening up a gift on your birthday, the anticipation as you rip off the wrapping paper. What was your favourite gift you ever received.? For me its a tie between my camera, and my Comatose Skillet CD. it was Christmas 2006 of which my Mom hid the CD under the label of a skillet frying pan. My first reaction when opening it was anger, I specifically wrote on my wish list Skillet CD and when I opened it up to just a frying pan I was a little more then upset. I threw the frying pan to the side and continued opening gifts it wasn't until my Mom picked it up and laughed that I realized there was more then just a frying pan. I wish I could have seen my face when I saw the CD. Pure JOY! I remember jumping up and down screaming in excitement. Something so simple, a CD of which I could have bought my self and yet it was my favourite gift a mere $20 spent and it still brings me joy to listen to it.
Now ask me how old I was when I gave my heart to the Lord. I remember it was at a after school program, around mothers day and I believe I was 7. How is it that I can remember Christmas of 2006 yet I cant remember the day when my life changed forever. I don't remember praying then jumping up and down screaming in excitement. Now the date inst as important, but my point is God sent his Son to die on the cross so that we may have ever lasting live John 3:16. My prayer is that this Easter we celebrate the Greatest Gift ever given to us. Blessings Katelyn I have wanted to write a blog for sometime now. I kept asking myself what would I write about? My purpose for my blog is simple, I want to write about things that are important to me, topics such as Purity, Modesty, Relationships. I want to write using a biblical viewpoint. Using Scripture to challenge the norm. I want to be a voice to encourage young woman to STAND Stay. True. And. Never. Deviate. for Purity.
Lets get one thing straight, Purity isn't my main goal , now I know that may sound strange, but I believe that Purity is so much more then fleeing from sexual sin and waiting until marriage . Purity starts with self worth. What are you worth? It says in Psalm 139:13-14. For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mothers womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. I am a true believer in loving yourself. You cant expect a man to love you when you don't love your self, it is unhealthy to find self worth in the arms of a man. Now I am not saying that he cant pay you a complement, I am saying that you need to first find your self worth in the arms of the one who created you. As a teen I struggled with self worth. I know first hand the struggles we as woman face. We are bombarded with media's definition of beautiful . Double zero, thigh gaps, perfect hair, flawless skin, long lashes, blameless make-up and the list goes on. Unachievable standards! As a youth leader and mentor I see the same struggles in young girls as I had growing up. I want you to imagine yourself painting this beautiful picture of a sun rise. using reds and yellows to fill the sky, adding blues and turquoise for the ocean below. After painting it you take a step back and you absolutely love everything about this painting down to the very last detail, Now imagine someone looking at the picture and pointing out all the flaws. Just imagine the hurt you would feel. Knowing that hurt why do we do the same to God? Our perfect creator! We were made in the image of God it says in Genesis 1:27 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. My prayer is that we would look at ourselves through Gods eyes and find our confidence in Him and not that of the world! Blessings, Katelyn |